Sex, a major issue of conflict existing in almost every conversation I must say. Sex and its importance in our lives cannot be downplayed or relegated to the background as it does serve various purposes especially in the life of the married. Almost any and everybody, these days practice sex making the act quite indiscriminate and a whole lot negative. In these times that we find ourselves, people will choose to do anything as well as believe in everything without factoring in the advent effects of these acts be it going against their religion or even the society they find themselves in. most arguments base their statements on the fact that should any relationship stand firm and hold its ground in any condition, a requirement posing as a great help is sex. Others view this as not being true as it goes against certain teachings and dictates of the good books- the bible. No one really bases their arguments against substantive findings or facts and as such leaves most of the arguments started hanging in thin air with no backing evidence whatsoever. We are going to take a walk down the bible, in our efforts to get the true and deeper meaning of the practice of sex. We going to find out if indeed it is a sin, and if proven to be, what then are the circumstances that places one in the position of committing such a sin.
Is Sex Before Marriage a Sin? WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY?
Even though the bible does not forwardly condemn the act of sex as being evil or negative, it does condemn to a greater extent the practice of sex before marriage, better known as fornication. The bible views the act of having sex before marriage as being sinful. It is seen as a violation or defiling of one’s body which the bible refers to as a ‘holy temple’. 1 Corinthians 6:13King James Version (KJV)…..’ Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body’. The body is not of ours, but it’s of our creator. We own not ourselves and we brought forth not ourselves into existence. It’s of this background that the bible speaks vehemently against the act of sexual immorality. In the books of 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, much elaboration is given on the need to abstain from sexual immorality. Being the will of God for his children, it is required of us to do according to his word and obey his every commandment. Our purity and total sanctity is of great importance to the creator above. We are tasked therefore to control our sexual urge in holiness and in honor, not in the passion of lust like the gentiles in the days of old who knew absolutely nothing about God and lived their lives anyhow.
As Christians, we need to let the light of absolute holiness and purity shine forth from within us. It’s not all about saying you are a Christian yet deviate and go against the words of the father. Which obedient child goes against a father’s voice and instructions? Of what use is it to violate one’s body, which represents Gods holy grounds? It is within that very core, that he loves to dwell! You go all about damaging and keeping filth in there and still expect him to live there? Absolutely not! Things don’t work like that, and he rightfully said it in the books of John 14: 15, King James Version (KJV)… ‘If ye love me, keep my commandments’. Choosing to engage in sexual activities whereas you not married, is clearly a sin. No matter how you look at it, it’s a sin and violation against your body and God! Nothing can justify your reasons for doing this and no amount of excuse will rescue you from the wrath of God when and if you decide to live within this sinful circle.
It is absolutely needless to say the least that as Christians, some of us still find reasons as to violating the very law of not fornicating and find ourselves backsliding a thousand times over. But the good news however is that it’s not too late to right the wrongs you’ve made. Living in a world of unchastity is sinful in entirety, but not unpardonable. You may have lost focus at a point in time and requisitely gone against the word of God, but it’s not at all a useless venture if you want to make amends and start living according to his will and ways. It is only the unwise who refuse to turn away from their misdoings and turn a deaf ear to all forms of corrections. Their reward is eternal damnation for the sins committed. The bible attests to this truth when it said in the books of Romans 6: 23….For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. once we acknowledge our mistakes and honestly decide to turn on a new leaf, our father above who is ever gracious and merciful will look not to these sins anymore but will take us, wash us and clean us into purity. He said in his words that whosoever shall confess with his mouth his sins and repent from his evil ways, that person he shall forgive. Don’t feel left out all because you’ve gotten to realize today that you’ve been committing a sin all along. You may have known or refused to follow the instructions of the father, but today is the day you have to decide to stand up for yourself and fight the urge to fornicate. I hear most people going like….’Oh! It’s too hard to abstain’ or ‘I don’t know how to fight the urge of having sex’…., but I tell you today that if you have it within you to stop this sinful act, it is possible to fight it. Nothing positive can be achieved without first setting one’s mind to it. Hebrews 13:4 – Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Defiling your body outside of marriage will not be dealt with likely. It is considered a serious offence in the good books of which offenders will be equally perpetuated.
One very helpful tool in fighting this is to build and nurture a constant relationship with God. He’s the all in all and the only shot you’ve got at setting things right and veering off the sinful road. You need to go to him in earnest. Talk to him like the father he’s to you. He understands your fears. He knows your weakness and he won’t use it against you. He’s not like man, who will be quick to judge you and not care about how you really feel within. All you need to do is assure yourself of the need to quit living in the sin of fornication. Get closer to your Father (God) and with a repentant heart, confess all your sins before him. He’s ever faithful and willing to forgive you. Just go to him…., and never look back ON YOUR PAST. It’s gone. You don’t belong there anymore; tell yourself that each and every day. Sex before marriage is a sin. Now you do know, and therefore the need to abstain totally from it. It doesn’t really matter how you view it…., sin is a sin. Once you not married and you engage in it, you’ve opened yourself up to be used by so many malevolent entities unknown to you riding over the surface of the earth. You need to put an end to it…..and it starts NOW!
Is sex before marriage a sin was written by: Chantelle Iris Nunoo.